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Relationship Problems? Ignore all the Dumb Advice and Try This
Sorry, couples therapy is less successful than you think.

Before they sign up for therapy, most couples have done their best to course-correct their relationship.
Even if one partner is unwilling, the other will have tried to figure out what’s going on — read books and whatever spews forth from an internet search.
Do this and you’ll get a flood of stock standard advice, most of which is patronising, if not inordinately difficult, for a couple in conflict.
Advice like this:
- Practice healthy communication skills (difficult, when you’re not even sure what those are).
- Become an active listener (difficult, when the other person is yelling at you or not speaking to you).
- Try to understand your partner’s feelings (difficult, when it’s all one way and your partner shows no interest in understanding yours).
- Be affectionate (difficult, when your partner has turned their back on you).
- Book a date night (difficult, because you’ll be that couple sitting in the restaurant with nothing to talk about).
- Spend some quality time together (difficult, see the point above).