Hi Beth, excellent point. I think in an ideal world — and as long as you can let go hope over the outcome — this would be a great idea.It’s always good to learn! Ghosts are not necessarily bad people — they might just be inexperienced or avoidant or not be able to express themselves.

But the human need for validation trumps everything else and, in almost all cases, I don’t think the ghost would be able to deliver what the person they’d hurt most needed to hear. So in almost every case I’d advise people to leave it and walk away. Thanks for your thoughtful comment.

Clinical psychologist, writer. Editor of On the Couch: Practical psychology for everyday life. karen@onthecouch.co.nz

Clinical psychologist, writer. Editor of On the Couch: Practical psychology for everyday life. karen@onthecouch.co.nz