It’s the hidden barrier to success — You’re determined to get to the top. You are bursting with ideas. You have the talent, the drive, the work ethic — you are committed and persistent. There is literally no reason for you not to reach the highest level in your field. Except this. It’s the one that rears…

When the holidays ramp up the pressure on relationships. — You’re going through a rocky patch. The usual niggles over money, sex and chores have turned into bigger arguments, followed by sulks and uneasy truces. From the outside, no-one would know what’s going on. But there’s a widening gap between you, poor communication, little intimacy, you seem to have lost…

When they don’t text you back it might be a good thing. — You’ve been on a few dates; it’s going well. At least, you thought it was. Your date seemed really into it; as eager to pursue — or at least explore — the relationship as you felt. But now you’re waiting for them to reply to your message — and waiting…

A fun way to improve your life. — You have the talent, you have the work ethic — but you’re stuck. You have so many creative goals but you just can’t find the motivation to move forward. Day after day passes and nothing (much) gets done. Every now and then you have a burst of creative energy —…

Beyond the five love languages. — Everyone’s heard of the five love languages. Okay maybe not everyone, but I reckon it’s close. Almost everyone in therapy to work on their relationship issues can name their primary “language”. This simple classification was the brainchild of Dr Gary Chapman who wrote the classic book The Five Love Languages…

You can have both. If you’re smart. — Do you love the thrill of the chase? Do you feel at your best — most alive — when you’re going hard after your goals? Fair play. There’s nothing wrong with being powered by a strong desire and determination to succeed. Actually, there’s a lot right with it. Trouble is…

When you’re out, but you’re not. — You’re out — except you’re not. You feel like you’ve run your race in your relationship. But — officially — you’re still together. From the outside, things look pretty normal. But, inside the relationship, there’s trouble. You know it, your partner senses it — and tension between you simmers. Maybe…

When you want to take the “path less travelled” — but you don’t. — “I’m spoilt for options,” my client said. We were discussing the place she’d found herself in — smack in the angst of midlife; flat, bored, struggling to feel excited over anything. Like many, she felt guilty for even raising this in therapy. It felt indulgent when so many people around…

Then it’ll drive you crazy. — She seemed like the coolest person he’d ever met. Ambitious, strong-minded, independent, focused, an out and out go-getter. A survivor in the face of failure. (Attractive? Goes without saying.) He was pretty quickly hooked. He couldn’t get enough of her. Their life together was going to be something pretty special. …