A fresh take on finding your passion. — Do you love your job? Like, I mean, with unabiding passion? Can’t wait to rip into it every day? The mere mention of work sends shivers through various body parts— in a good way. In all my years of doing therapy and coaching I’ve met a few who do. They…

Managing the pain of a difficult relationship — “My daughter has cut me out of her life,” a woman wrote. “We never had an easy relationship but now she won’t answer my calls or messages. I can’t see my grandkids. It’s unbelievably hurtful,” she wrote. She had read a column I’d written about how to manage toxic parents…

It’s the hidden barrier to success — You’re determined to get to the top. You are bursting with ideas. You have the talent, the drive, the work ethic — you are committed and persistent. There is literally no reason for you not to reach the highest level in your field. Except this. It’s the one that rears…

When the holidays ramp up the pressure on relationships. — You’re going through a rocky patch. The usual niggles over money, sex and chores have turned into bigger arguments, followed by sulks and uneasy truces. From the outside, no-one would know what’s going on. …

When they don’t text you back it might be a good thing. — You’ve been on a few dates; it’s going well. At least, you thought it was. Your date seemed really into it; as eager to pursue — or at least explore — the relationship as you felt. But now you’re waiting for them to reply to your message — and waiting…

A fun way to improve your life. — You have the talent, you have the work ethic — but you’re stuck. You have so many creative goals but you just can’t find the motivation to move forward. Day after day passes and nothing (much) gets done. Every now and then you have a burst of creative energy —…

Beyond the five love languages. — Everyone’s heard of the five love languages. Okay maybe not everyone, but I reckon it’s close. Almost everyone in therapy to work on their relationship issues can name their primary “language”. This simple classification was the brainchild of Dr Gary Chapman who wrote the classic book The Five Love Languages…

You can have both. If you’re smart. — Do you love the thrill of the chase? Do you feel at your best — most alive — when you’re going hard after your goals? Fair play. There’s nothing wrong with being powered by a strong desire and determination to succeed. Actually, there’s a lot right with it. Trouble is…

When you’re out, but you’re not. — You’re out — except you’re not. You feel like you’ve run your race in your relationship. But — officially — you’re still together. From the outside, things look pretty normal. But, inside the relationship, there’s trouble. You know it, your partner senses it — and tension between you simmers. Maybe…