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Clinical psychologist, writer. Editor of On the Couch: Practical psychology for everyday life. karen@onthecouch.co.nz

And 5 ways to cultivate it.

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Not the other kind.

Immature love says: ‘I love you because I need you!’ Mature love says ‘I need you because I love you.’ — Erich Fromm

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Okay maybe you don’t. But I do.

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Who you want to date. Who you want to be.

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If you have all of them, you’re lucky. Or very cool.

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Is your partner (still) the one for you?

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Because we can do without a lecture.

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Not just going through the motions.

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Excessive kindness will hurt you. Here’s why.

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Karen Nimmo

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